Close on paper, far in the room. Let's start with that quiet distance between you.

One read, at your pace

A few short sets, one at a time. There’s no wrong answer — just what’s true for you.

How deep do you want to go?

Quick readFull depth

Who is this about?

About myselfA specific relationship

No need to name anyone — you never have to say who.

Section 1 of 4 · Communication Style

How you say things

Communication Style

When something matters to me, I say it plainly and directly.Strongly disagreeDisagreeNeutralAgreeStrongly agree

I get straight to the point rather than easing into it.Strongly disagreeDisagreeNeutralAgreeStrongly agree

I would rather get feedback straight and unvarnished.Strongly disagreeDisagreeNeutralAgreeStrongly agree

I would rather feedback be gently framed or cushioned.Strongly disagreeDisagreeNeutralAgreeStrongly agree

When something is bothering you, you're more likely to…Say it directly and immediatelyHint at it and hope the other person picks up on itWait until askedWrite it down / text it rather than say it aloudAfter thinking, I decide not to bring it up at all.

That's the how-you-say-things piece. Nothing here is good or bad — it's just your wiring.

This is a place to start seeing each other more clearly — not a replacement for a good therapist. If things feel heavy, that’s worth real support too.

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